Contribution from a friend - more wisdom from OldSchoolPlayer25

Thanks so much to my friend, OSP25, for another eloquent contribution!  Originally posted as a thread on blacktowhite.net

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An Essay on Words

Recently, one of the couples on BlacktoWhite (CuckoldCouple) posted a thread called Evocative Images. All the pics posted were of great quality showing Interracial couples in various stages of lovemaking and sex. One of the responders used the word ‘sluts’ in his response to the pics. It was inappropriate and reflected a limited view of women.

Black to White has been an interesting web site, and has started to evolve into something more then just amateur porn viewing and posting of pics. It appears to be actually growing up, in the sense that the thrust and general level of content and discourse has started to rise above the level of just so-called ‘trash talk’. 

Having been watching and reading the posts, I have come away impressed with the intelligence and awareness of the folks who are regulars on the site. In addition, one Member (Mariposa Blanca) has taken the time to start a blog for folks new to the lifestyle, and is trying to give them a comfort level above the more commercial porn sites. BtW is actually becoming adult. 

With that observation, I am wondering if it is time to think about modifying our language in the description of the women. We appear to have more women and couples who are joining and looking forward to interaction on an adult IR platform. I fully recognize that all of us come from different experiences, belief systems and backgrounds. The one constant is the fact that when a woman chooses to share her body with a man, whether he be Black or White or whatever, she has provided a gift to him that cannot be duplicated. 

The question being raised...is it time for the Brothers of Beta Beta Chi to modify their language on the public threads and forums and stop describing the women as ‘sluts’ , bitches, or cum buckets? This is not an effort to censor the trash talk done between a man and a woman who is chatting with him on the forum, but more to think twice in our descriptions of women who have various levels of interaction with IR and significant differences in how they share their gifts. Yes, there are women who enjoy the so-called “over the top” experience, and they have made that choice to explore their sexuality to the limit with numerous groups in various settings. There are others who are more conservative and wish to only share their gifts with one man or maybe a second. Lastly, there is the woman who, with her husband’s approval, shares her gifts willingly, but also on her terms and conditions. In no way should the men of Beta Beta Chi denigrate or degrade them in any way on the forums or threads. What is done between a BBC and the lady in private is their own form of play and no questions there.

So members, male and female, please feel free to comment or respond. The above essay is only being posed as a rhetorical question. As we grow in numbers and attract more adults and couples, which should be our goal, we might want to think about how we men of Beta Beta Chi are being perceived if the only form of communication we use is to refer to our female members or newbies as ‘sluts’ or bitches.