Welcome to my world!

Hi, and welcome to Girl Talk with Mariposa Blanca!  (But, guys, you are certainly welcome, too!)

If you have just kind of stumbled onto this blog, please be advised that this blog will get deeply into talk about sex, particularly interracial sex, so if that topic makes you uncomfortable, please feel free to leave.

This first entry is just to get me started, kind of getting my feet wet, so please bear with me.  I am hopeful things will get more interesting as we go along.  LOL

This blog idea all started with one of my friends from a site I am on telling me that I really need to write a blog, especially for women who are trying to find their way in the InterRacial (commonly known as IR) Lifestyle. The site we "met" on can be rather intimidating, with all of the various "personalities" on there. There are black men, white men, white women, mix of married and single.  I don't think I've ever seen a black woman on there, though.  HOWEVER... as is typical for the internet, there are a lot of people who aren't what they pretend to be. The guys who say they're white usually are.  However, any other profiles can be hit and miss when it comes to the truth.

The black guys (known as BBC - and not because they are associated with the British Broadcasting Corporation - LOL) may or may not be Big or Black.  There have been many profiles sporting a picture of either a very handsome black face, a big black cock, or a strong black body.  These profiles do not all belong to black guys.  Many pics are stolen from porn websites and used to make the women think that the guy is black.  I always figure that if a guy is posting stolen pictures, he's probably white, in his 60s, with a potbelly and a combover.  My suggestion to a new person coming on the site is always to verify the person you want to get to know better, ESPECIALLY if you think you may want to meet them.  If you have Skype, that's a good way.  But, please, be careful.  Create a Skype account that can't be used to locate you or put you in any danger.  There are weird people out there in Internet Land.  One of my friends has actually been stalked, so please, again, be careful!

The white men tend to be Cuckolds (known as Cucks).  Not all, but most.  They tend to really want their wives or girlfriends to "be blacked", as they say.   Personally, I think they should be talking to their wives or girlfriends about their fantasies, but I am very much a proponent of open communication between partners. If their wife/girlfriend doesn't know what they are thinking, then that is a red flag in itself.  NO RELATIONSHIP can last without open, honest communication!!

The female profiles can also be suspect.  Some of us are real, 100% women.  Others may be female, but not look like what their picture shows.  Yet others are gay men, who simply want pictures from the BBCs who, for the most part, will jump on any posting from a female who advertises herself as young, pretty and hot for a BBC.  Granted, that isn't the way all the guys are.  Some of the guys actually know how to approach a woman from an intellectual standpoint, rather than just saying "I got a BBC that needs a white woman to ride it.  How about it?" before they even get to know you.  As a woman who is still kind of shy and reserved, and who hasn't had that many sexual partners in her whole life, that kind of approach is appreciated.

Anyway, that's what I have learned in the few months I have been on an IR website.

Now, a bit about me.  As I said, I'm kind of shy and reserved, so I won't be putting a picture of myself up, but I will be totally honest about my experiences.  I am real, live woman, in my mid-40s, married for almost 20 years to my first love.  I never had many boyfriends in high school or university, was always too busy studying.  Also, I was overweight, so I never really got that much attention from guys.  A few years ago, I wound up losing quite a bit of weight, and gained quite a bit of self-confidence.  I started wondering what I had missed out on when I was younger.

There was a guy who started flirting with me while I was on vacation with a girlfriend of mine, and he kissed me and told me I was beautiful and desirable and he wanted me.  I kissed him back, but could not take it any further.  My conscience just wouldn't let me.  After I got home, though, I told my husband everything that happened and my reaction to it.  Amazingly, I have a terrific husband who loves me to bits, and was not in the least threatened by this.  Instead, he understood why I was curious and told me that if I wanted to explore my "naughty side", that I had his permission and blessing to do so.  He knows that, at the end of the day, it's him I've chosen to grow old with.

So, now, I am involved in a couple of IR sites and have met a few guys from there, most just for coffee and chats.  I happened on the sites just by chance, through Google, and it has been quite the eye-opening experience, both from reading the forums and getting to know some of the folks on there, either through chatting online or meeting in person.

I'm honestly not sure where this blog will lead.  I don't even know if people will actually be interested in what I might find to say.  But it's here if you're interested, and I will add more as I can.

Looking forward to walking my new path together with some new friends.

Cheers,

Mari